Monday, December 29, 2014

One Saint of a Tanning Product

Sorry guys, still no wedding photos, or I would most definitely be posting about that. 
But! I'm dying to tell you about the product I used to look bronzed on my big day!
I love love love this product- St. Tropez Dark Bronzing Mousse.

At first, I thought I would just buy a tanning package the month before the wedding, but let's be honest aint nobody got time for that during an extended baseball season and traveling to Arizona multiple times. 
SO, I went with my next best option. 
I used St. Tropez to tan myself for my bachelorette party and for my big day, and was satisfied both times!

(please excuse my makeup on Kenneth's face! We might have kissed a lot while dancing...)

It gives you a gorgeous glow that isn't overbearing and obvious. 
I'm in love. 
In fact, I think I'll apply it tonight just for the fun of it! 

Have you tried this product or have any comments or questions?
Comment below! 

Friday, December 26, 2014

Very Married Christmas!

Okay seriously my heart is so full!
For Christmas Eve we went to Ken's grandma's house, like we have the past couple years.
It's a family tradition for them (I freakin' love traditions), so I love going and meeting and seeing his HUGE family every year. 
This year was our first married Christmas, and it made me love the fact that these are the memories we are making together that we will be able to look back on years from now.
His grandma is the absolute sweetest, funniest lady you'll ever meet. 
To name a few reasons why I adore her: she flies across the country and goes gambling all by herself, loves drinking wine no matter what time of the day it is... and she's 91 years old. 
AMAZING right?! 
I wanna be like her when I grow up.

On Christmas day we opened presents (Ken's family SPOILED me/us). 

I couldn't be happier with the family God has allowed me to marry into! 
They welcome me in, we laugh till the point of tears, and trust each other to have real open and honest conversations that are deeper than surface level. 
I seriously love them so much.
I know my parents are happy that while I'm away, I have a family spoiling and loving on me just like they would! 

We had Christmas dinner (delicious if I say so myself) ; all cooked by yours truly.

Here are the recipes I used this Christmas:
We hope you all had a very Merry Christmas! 
The Roberts

Monday, December 22, 2014

10 Things I've Learned In My One Month of Marriage

Today marks exactly ONE month of being a married woman! Here are ten things I've learned so far.

1. Laugh at your differences
Like I've told you before, my husband is 100% introvert and I am 100% extrovert. (For the love, if you don't know what this means please google it.) That being said, we have many.. many... MANY differences, on top of being two totally different genders! One thing I've learned in being married to the guy, is that we have got to laugh off our differences. It makes marriage so much more fun, and we are literally laughing ALL of the time. 

2. Be weird
If there is one thing that Ken and I are almost always saying to each other on a daily basis, it's "You're weird. Like, you are SO...WEIRD."
And we love it! Whether I'm booty shakin' on him in the kitchen, or he's singing at the top of his lungs to K-Ci and Jo Jo , we are always just plain weird. I told Ken just yesterday how I love to get to see the weird, no walls up, side of him that literally no one else gets to see. It's special. It keeps our home filled with fun, vulnerable, transparent moments that result in genuine laughs and silly kisses. 
Found this on Pinterest the other day and of course I HAD to pin it.

3. Only buy one big couch
Alright, we didn't plan this one, it sort of just ended up being the only piece of furniture that we purchased for our front room (I call it the front room, Ken calls it the living room- yet another dumb difference we choose to laugh at- but it's my blog not his so in this instance, we'll call it the front room). Anyways, I love our couch because duh, it forces us to cuddle whenever we watch TV. 

4. Give each other space
That being said about the whole couch thing, I have definitely learned that if we give each other space and "chill time", it works out in both of our favor. I will stick to the quality over quantity rule every time (like I mentioned in a previous blog on making long distance work -rule #2). We try and make it a point each day to have individual time to ourselves. Sometimes, I'll be in the bedroom, and he will be in the front room (living room, whatever). Everyone needs time to themselves, there's nothing wrong with that in any relationship- in fact, it's healthy!

5. Serve beyond your own self will
This was part of our vows, and I will be 100% honest with you that Ken and I probably have to choose to do this on a daily basis. I don't wake up chipper and ready to make breakfast and do dishes at 8 or 9 in the morning every day. But! When I wake up and make a conscious decision to love him and serve him to the best of my ability and with all of my heart, it makes me love him that much more. Crazy how choosing to love someone beyond yourself makes you feel 10 times the love than if you chose yourself every time. 

6. Pray together
This has been key to keeping Ken and I on the same page, and just functioning in a healthy manner as we learn more about one another and are introduced to each other's differences. We started this before we were married but have continued to pray every night before we go to bed. We desire that our whole lives and our marriage be centered around Christ, and as we pray together, we see just how much God is doing in our lives and are able to thank Him together every night. 
I've learned this is my absolute favorite part of being married. 

7. Read the Bible together
Ken and I have been on the same Bible reading plan since September, and it's been so fun to see how God is intertwining our lives together through the Bible. It keeps us accountable to uplift and love one another on a daily basis, just as Christ so tenderly and graciously loves us. 

8. Eat as many meals together as possible
Okay, whether we are eating our traditional tuna sandwiches after Ken works out every day, or breakfast or dinner, we are always having conversation. This conversation helps us stay on the same page, talk about our Bible reading time, and allow us to discuss any problems we may be facing in our own lives. It's precious. I know that not everyone can do this, I know life is CRAZY for some. I also know that it's amazing to see how much we become one through this. We create this sense of community with one another over an un-interrupted meal together. 

9. Be on the same page about everything
Money, plans for the month, plans for the day, or heck even how much you want to spend on each person's Christmas gift this year... we have learned that it is important to stay on the same page. We do this through many of the ways that I've communicated through this post already. We have also learned to immediately express to the other person when we don't feel on the same page. 

10. Humbly, graciously, and vulnerably express your needs
Being such opposite personalities (and opposite genders) sometimes a simple change in approach or affection can change the whole game. I will find myself wishing Ken would do something more frequently, or maybe I'm having just an off day and need him to sit and let me talk for a good 30 minutes. When I express my need to him, or him to me, it allows open, vulnerable conversation that helps us learn about one another and the way we tick. When we express our needs to one another, though they don't always have to be met right then (and often can't) it lets each person practice meeting the need in a more natural situation. 
(This is where the humbly, graciously, vulnerably expressing comes in- 
never demand that your needs be met)
 For example, if I say to Ken that I need more affection, a long hug right then wouldn't necessarily fill that void. But, when he listens, and talks it through with me, then later that night gives me a long, loving hug, it means so much more than the affection I was missing. It means that he listened, he heard me, now he's putting it to practice because he truly cares for my needs. 

Any marriage advice for us? We'd love to hear it! 
OR if you have any comments or questions, feel free to comment or contact me! 

Friday, December 19, 2014

6 Tips For Roadtrips Across the Country

As I said in my post yesterday, in the last couple of months I've logged a pretty good amount of travel time across the states. 
In September, I drove my car from Washington to Arizona (about a 20 hr drive total), and then again with Ken from Arizona to Tennessee (about a 27 hr drive give or take). 

(When we started in Arizona) 

When I had to do the first trip alone, I asked some other experienced baseball wives what their tips were (kudos to all those baseball wives who do it with a U-Haul behind them, three kids, a cat, and a dog!). It's definitely a common occurrence for baseball wives to have to pack up their little apartment and drive across the country for a season, an off season, spring training, a team change, etc. (oh, you thought moving all the time was glamorous, we all flew everywhere, and shipped all our stuff all the time? Cute.)
Road trips are for the big girls. 
Whether we like it or not in this Baseball life, there are a lot of moves and driving. But! I'm here to tell you, whether you're taking a fun roadtrip with your besties, or traveling alone, there are plenty of ways to make it fun and enjoyable! 
So, here are 6 tips and tricks for roadtrips across the country:

1. Lotto Tickets
Yep. You heard me. I'm not a gambler, I don't make bets, and I'm awful at Poker, but one thing that Ken got me started on was buying a lotto ticket at the start of our roadtrips. 
We made it a point to stop and get lotto tickets in every state we passed through, and it was so fun! Sometimes we lost, sometimes we won....
Okay, can I brag? We won around 20 bucks off of 1 and 2 dollar scratch offs.

All that to say, find SOMETHING that makes you want to stop and have a little fun (make sure it's legal people).

2. Podcasts and Audio Books
On the road trip by myself, I got a long novel that, let's be honest I would never have the patience to sit and read, but I was still intrigued enough to get the audio book. 
I downloaded Amazon Audio Books free trial, and it was enough to get me the books I wanted for the trip. 
I chose Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers. (PS. AMAZING fictional story based off of my favorite book in the Bible- Hosea).

On the road trip with Ken, we listened to a lot of Podcast Sermons including some of our favorites- Trevor Atwood, Matt Chandler, and Judah Smith.

 3. Sunflower Seeds
Okay, probably the MOST needed thing on every long roadtrip. If you don't listen to any other piece of advice, listen to this one! Sunflower seeds keep you WIDE awake when you start getting bored, groggy, and just plain cranky from being in a car that long. I could eat sunflower seeds all day.
At 2 in the morning after being up since 5 am, Ken was rapping to every song that came on and chompin' on sunflower seeds. I'm telling you, they're a must. 

4. A Gallon
That being said, sunflower seeds make you thirsty after some time. Our biggest life saver was having a gallon of water that we could just keep filling up our cup with. It saved space on full water bottles, empty water bottles, and while we're at it, was the greener way to go as far as all that plastic! 
Water is a good thing on a road trip. I know a lot of people who say they try to drink very little so they go to the bathroom less. Please don't listen to them. 
Water keeps you happy, awake, and hydrated. 
It also allows you to make frequent enough stops to get out, stretch, and heck- buy yourself a lotto ticket. 

5. Switch in Increments of Time
When I drove with Ken, we had ideas of when we wanted to stop, and the hours it would take to get there. We switched when the time was up, and that made it a little easier to know when your "shift" was up. Another way to switch is just when your gas tank gets low and you need to get out and stretch anyways.
When I drove alone, I would stop and get gas every time I had a quarter of a tank left, and that seemed perfect for me! 

6. Switch Up The Route
When you are forced to go on a roadtrip, find the most attractive route to you! 
For example, Ken and I had two routes to choose from to get us to Tennessee. 
We had a route that took us through Dallas, and I had been dying to see it for a while now.
We went that way, and it made the trip SO much more fun knowing that we had something to look forward to besides our end destination. 

(I know, a pathetic, doesn't-do-it justice picture of Dallas, but I'm still obsessed.)

Do you have any other tips and tricks for roadtrips across the country? 
Comment below and let me know! 

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Why November Was Such A Blur

Alright, so I told you I would catch you up on our little life. Here it is, but there's no way I could add all the details, you would be reading forever!... or stop reading all together.

So, here we go!  
Ken played baseball in the Arizona Fall League until November 15.
(He did amazing, and I want to brag about him. I won't. But really?... YUM.)

Ken flew to Washington Sunday, November 16.

On Wednesday November 18 we packed up all my stuff and any gifts I received at my bridal showers, bachelorette party, etc. and put it all in a truck and trailer. We drove to Spokane and packed it into a pod and said sayonara as we sent it off to Tennessee.

After we got back to Tri-Cities on Wednesday night, we then turned around on Thursday, the next day, and headed to Spokane for the wedding!

 The wedding was amazing, but I'll talk about that in a different post ;)

That week, we headed to Cancun, Mexico for our honeymoon .. again saving that for another day but here is a sneak peek photo of why we fell in love with the place!

 After Cancun, we flew to Spokane, then flew to Phoenix (my car was there, I drove it from Washington back in September), stayed the night there, then drove from Phoenix to El Paso, Texas. In Texas we got a hotel, then the next morning we were up and driving starting at 6:30 am... we made up our crazy minds and drove ALL the way to TN. 
We got into Tennessee around 3:30 am.. yes that's over 20 hrs of driving in one day... and we still like each other! 

Anyways, now we are here in Tennessee until the end of the off season. 
We will move to Arizona sometime in February. 
Ken throws and trains everyday with other professional baseball players, and I've just had a blast being a little house wife. 
I love our little life, and our fun adventures. 
I wouldn't trade it for the world! 

Questions or comments concerning anything I wrote about today? Let me know! Comment below! 


Thursday, December 11, 2014

What's in the name?

Why Ten Rows Back?
Like I said in my bio, one of the places you can find me is ten rows back in a stadium seat (okay, sometimes farther sometimes closer) watching my hubby's baseball games.
Our baseball life is so complex, and so hard to keep up with (really, even my best friends ... heck, even my parents can't keep up sometimes with all of our moves!) that I think it will be really beneficial for people to be able to just track where we are, what we're up to, and everything else that comes with this life.
I can't even describe how proud I am of him.
I’m a HUGE fan.
But not just for him. So let me explain.
I am a fan in every area of my life.
One thing that I am a huge fan of is advocating for women.
Often, women feel "lost in the crowd" as I can relate to sitting in a stadium seat surrounded by other baseball wives and fans. My goal is to make her believe that she's not "out of the loop" in having it all together (because let's be honest, no one does) and to  help her not feel so lost. My goal is to see every woman collaborating with one another, instead of competing, as women (myself included!!) so often naturally do in the industry that I'm in. I am passionate about seeing women's lives changed from the mean girl that society loves to promote to the caring, yet powerful nature that women hold and have the ability to change the world with. I'm an advocate for women being able to express themselves freely and I promote every woman's voice to be heard. I could go on and on, and no I'm not a man-hating feminist... I simply just believe that women are powerful! For more on this topic, check out my recent blog post seize the opportunity, which was also recently published in a women's magazine based out of Oklahoma.

Finally, I'm a fashion fanatic. A new addition to my blog, every now and then, I'll post about my fashion finds, style trends, or products I just can't live without! Whether I'm getting dressed for a baseball game, traveling, or going out on the town, you'll get to read my tips and tricks, as well as posts by my absolute FAV lifestyle/makeup bloggers!
All in all, I love to encourage people to wear what inspires them and makes them feel confident and beautiful too.
I’m a supporter. I’m an advocate for empowerment.
And that’s precisely the things you will read about on my blog.
Whether it’s the baseball life, articles empowering women, or style and fashion…
I’m a fan, ten rows back, encouraging and supporting.
"Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be." - Ralph Waldo Emerson