Sunday, March 22, 2015

4 Things I Wish My Younger Self Would Have Known

I feel like there are so many things that I would go back and tell my younger (teen-21 year old) self, but for now, here's just four things I wish my younger self would have known. 

1. Don't be so sassy. 

It's not cool, it's not cute... you look immature. I get it, joke with friends, but being sassy towards people or towards people behind their back... no. You may think your friends or the people around you think it's funny, but really you look unwise and unkind. 

2. Run the "joke" in your head a couple times before you blurt it out. 

More times than not, your poke at someone is painful, not funny. If your goal is to get a laugh or two for a moment yet you're saying something that could also possibly hurt someone-- don't do it. It's not worth the laughs. Be gracious and lady (or gentleman) like. You can have a good time without running other people down. 

3. You don't have to be friends with everyone. 

I'm the girl that wants every one to like her (what person doesn't want that?). 
I'm the girl that used to feel like I had to strive to make relationships peaceful, have heart to hearts with those I felt didn't like me, etc. Well, I'm here to tell you that you don't have to do that. There comes a point in your life when you realize that people are people, no one is perfect, and you have the responsibility to love them but also the power to choose at what distance. Does that make sense? 
Let me explain. If someone and I don't get along for whatever reason, that's okay, I don't have to be best friends with them, some people don't click and THAT'S OKAY. My job, and my goal, is to love every person, but not with the same way that I love on the people who are close to me in my life. You have to guard your heart. Some people, heck even some pastors may even disagree with me, but I'm telling you that when you stop trying to be friends with every person, and invest your time and energy into the people who are close to you, your world will be a lot less challenging, and a genuine heart shines forth on all those around you. After all, Jesus loved the world, but had a close 12 that he poured into and shared intimate moments with- he didn't try to do that with every single person he encountered. 

4. Forgive but you don't have to always forget. 

Sooooooo many times people say forgive and forget! 
STOP. Here's why. 
When deep hurts happen to you over and over that are directly caused by another person, I would say it is UNHEALTHY to "forget" or act like they never happened. 

TRUE FRIENDS DO NOT INTENTIONALLY HURT YOU. 
TRUE FRIENDS SAY THEY ARE SORRY AND MEAN IT. 

I remember being manipulated so many times by other people who I thought were my "friends" but in reality, they just wanted something from me (again, another reason I will preach number 3 till I die). I think it's right and biblical to forgive many times, but don't be a fool to keep going back to someone who hurts you. That's not healthy. Take a deep breath, evaluate the friendship/relationship. If you are continually having to apologize for things that you don't feel were wrong, and if the other person never takes responsibility for their actions, it's not healthy. If the relationship doesn't feel natural or if it causes anxiety in you-- Let. It. GO. Forgive, but don't forget those feelings. 
Let me explain this a little further to give you better understanding.
I'm saying yes, forgive, but don't keep going back or trying to "work on the friendship". 
I have to work on my marriage, but Ken and I are mostly having fun, laughing, having deep fruitful conversations than we are "working on our relationship". If it feels like more work than play, if it feels like more drama than dance, it's not a well-balanced, fruitful friendship (and let me remind you, THAT'S OKAY). 

Now, I will say this. In my relationship with Ken, if I do him wrong or am unkind to him, I say sorry and he forgives and forgets.. love keeps no record of wrongs. However, if it isn't TRUE LOVE in any friendship/relationship, it's a disservice to yourself and the other person to just keep trying to forget and "start over". 
You'll know when your friendship is real and has substance, but if you know it's not, carry on and number 3. 



 Ladies, let's strive to be kind. 
Strive to lift others up in every situation, behind their back and to their face.
When dealing with people who don't like you for whatever reason, don't take it personally. 
Still, be kind. Be the bigger person. In ten years, the drama won't matter. 


Thursday, March 19, 2015

Arizona Living

Hello Sunshines! 
Hope all is well from wherever you are across the globe! I am very excited to catch you up with all things Arizona living!

We are in a little condo right behind Scottsdale Fashion Square (the mall- HELLO!) and we are loving it! 
Marriage has been AMAZING and we literally grow closer every day as well as closer with God. 
Ken has been doing amazing with the Rockies so far, and can I just mention we have met some AMAZING people this spring!?
We have been going to Gateway Church here and absolutely loving it and inviting all of our friends... and even strangers! 
God has been blessing us with AMAZING people who are leaving lasting impacts on our lives, some baseball people, some not. Each is making such a difference in our lives and we are SO thankful! 


 (Some friends and I watching Ken and I throw on Sunday) 


Ken has been throwing every two days or so (at least that's how it feels so don't quote me). 
On St. Patty's day me and some other wifeys snuck down to the bullpen, and I snapped some creeper pics without him knowing.





Anyways, loves and hugs from AZ! 
xoxo


Saturday, March 7, 2015

Spread LOVE

Lately, Ken and I have been really challenged in our small group we are apart of here in Arizona. They talked about what we are actively doing to help those in need wether they are close to us, or just every day people living their lives the same as you and me. 
I got to thinking, and it seems as though the Lord has really been working on both Ken and I's hearts in this area. 
Ken has SUCH a big heart for people (like seriously); he's always willing to help someone financially, help someone with their car, give someone a ride, etc. He genuinely has a heart to serve others the way that Jesus would. 
Both Ken and I have had such a heart to share our blessings, time, and resources with those in need, and this week we got a very unique open door to do so. 

We were allowed an amazing opportunity to serve a refugee community here in Arizona. These people have been brought to America by American's help, and now are figuring out how to survive here knowing very very little English (could you imagine??!). My heart broke because I thought we were bringing them couches and a kitchen table to maybe replace older items they had, but that was not the case. We walked into the first home that literally had nothing. Their floors were bare; they had no kitchen table, no couches, and no coffee table-- nothing. The young family receiving these items were so thankful. 

As we sat and visited with families who had been moved here from various countries (Iraq, Afghanistan, Thailand, and other places), I could feel Jesus in those small, empty living rooms. To them, a bag of not so new clothes, a new bed, and couches just weren't something they could ever afford. They were living to survive. 

I pray that we take many more trips back to this place. It's truly life changing to step outside of your comfort zone and allow vulnerability in this area of your life. 
My goal is to stay in tune with where God leads me to give, and to pour into and love on those whom need his love (aka everyone I encounter). 

You don't have to spend thousands of dollars going to foreign countries (although that is VERY needed, so don't think I'm saying it's not). Step into your own neighborhood, your city, and see the people who are hurting around you. 
God will be faithful to protect and guide you through this and allow you to experience Him in new ways!

(I ADORED this little girl on the right next to me! She is 8 years old and translated SO quick between english and her first language; I wanted to put her in my pocket and take her with me!) 






I would LOVE to see how you are impacting those around you, or the organizations you may be a part of! 
Post your pics on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter (tag me! @katiellisroberts) and share how YOU are spreading love! Let's inspire those around us to 
SPREAD LOVE
Also, feel free to send your pictures and testimonies to tenrowsback@gmail.com!