Thursday, March 10, 2016

your thoughts are not always your reality

Okay, so I'm gonna be really honest here.
And... I really hope you still read my posts after this one..
HA!
But seriously.
Anyways.
Is there anyone out there like me whose thoughts are sometimes a little odd?
Stay with me... don't leave the post yet...
Seriously, I have some really strange thoughts, and I CAN'T be the only one, in fact, I know I'm not.

Women I've talked to and had conversations with have claimed to have similar thoughts...
and some are pretty out there.

In any case, sometimes our thoughts literally don't make sense.
Sometimes they do... but only kind of.
I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and one thing I noticed was that we tend to ALWAYS be thinking about this question,
"what if ______ happens?".
And that question alone can get pretty crazy; it's an incredibly broad space for your mind to wander.

For example, when I'm driving on the highway, I usually tend to remember the mile markers.
I'd love to say it's just a numbers thing, I'm good with numbers (I'm not), or that I just notice stuff like that... but it's totally not any of those reasons.
I told my friend (and she completely related) that the reason I do that is so in case I drive off a cliff and roll my car down to where no one can see me (if I survive that), then I can call 911 and tell them what mile marker I'm near so they can find me.
*insert the wide eyed face emoji*

I can come up with countless thoughts that the women I've talked to have that are similar to mine–
anywhere from passing and memorizing where the nearest hospital is in case something goes awry, to making sure our wedding ring is on when we go to Chick-fil-A so we can avoid judgement of why we ordered two milkshakes for ourselves.
Or like how ever since we moved to Florida, I have an irrational fear that a snake is going to make its way through the pipes and into my toilet.
GUYS. REAL THOUGHTS. REAL FEARS.

What I've found is that I'm similar to some women I know in that our thoughts like this are always sort of just a precautionary combination of preparing for the worst to happen and avoiding the worst from happening.
Is this not crazy?
Part of me doesn't necessarily think it's all that 'crazy'.
The more women I talk to, the more I find that our thoughts are constantly rolling.
There is NO stopping our brains.
I've found that a lot of our thoughts are shaped by our past experiences and the world around us.

I've been thinking a lot about thoughts (sounds odd, but you understand).
I've noticed just how much thoughts have an affect on me and the women I've talked to– it affects the way I view myself, the way I view others, the way fears can fester, and much more.
It's funny because sometimes I think about something and I do a double take like,
where did that come from?
Almost like a weird, sporadic dream you wake up from and think, wow that was odd.

That got me thinking.
How many thoughts do I have every day that have absolutely no truth in them, yet I choose to believe them anyways?
When I say that I don't think these random thoughts are crazy, I'm not saying the thoughts themselves aren't crazy, I'm just saying that I think more people have odd thoughts pop into their heads than they want to admit.
Here's what I've been learning recently.
Thoughts are not always reality. 
I can have a thought, and it can literally shoot fear through me.
I can have a thought, and I can instantly feel bad about myself.
I can also have a thought, and think I'm the greatest thing ever.

All of these thoughts are not necessarily reality.
In the same way that I can lead myself to believe there is a snake coming up my toilet, I can lead myself to believe and view myself in a way that simply isn't true.
Do you understand what I mean when I say that our thoughts are not our reality?

I used to be obsessed with my thoughts.
I used to consider every single thought and ask the question, "why did I just think that?" or "is there something wrong with me?"
The truth is, that in the world we live in there are constantly things being thrown in our face– consciously and subconsciously.
Listen, there is absolutely no way to control the thoughts that enter your mind;
however, you DO have control over the POWER you give your thoughts.
This is good news.

Just because you THINK you are something, does NOT mean it is reality.
Some thoughts are bad, some thoughts are good.
In either case, they must not rule our lives.
I've mentored many girls and women who think something about themselves, and when they reveal it to me or other people, we are absolutely taken back, often thinking– 
"How could she EVER think that about herself?! It simply isn't true!"

  It's a beautiful thing when our perception of ourselves and others is aligned with God's view of us.
May our thoughts always be turned for good, and may we dismiss the ones that bring shame and guilt. 
Let's choose to only give power to the thoughts that are full of truth.

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